Wedding Vows Renewal

Crafting Wedding Vows Renewals Can Make Life Better.
Life Changes Are a Perfect Time For Wedding Vows Renewal Ceremony.

A wise woman, whose name I have now forgotten wrote an article about wedding vows about 20 years ago. In it, she said that we should probably renew our wedding vows every 3 years or so, because our marriages and our lives changed that often.

The vows of a couple contemplating children are different than those of a couple whose children have just graduated from school.

And their vows are not really exactly the same as a couple who is about to retire. Maybe one of you has been injured or hurt. Both of you might benefit from a recommitting to the promises you've been keeping.

It is also true that marriages (and all relationships) need celebrations. They do better when you pay attention to them and ask your community to pay attention to them.

Our marriages do better as well when we know the specific vows we have committed to uphold. Even if the vows are the same, the emphases may be different. Your renewal wedding vows and your vow renewal ceremony should speak to your needs and desires in this next stage of your life.

As you move forward, think about some of these things:

What have you accomplished with your marriage thus far?

What are you planning to do with your marriage now?

How are you planning to keep the passion alive now that life is different? (not alive now? How are you going to get it back?)

How about the romance?

How will the rhythm of your relationship change now that your lives are changing?

How will you include one another in your lives in this new era of your marriage?

What things might you be doing more on your own?

Are you planning to update your communication skills as you enter a new and unfamiliar era? (If not, why not? Have you ever run into a marriage that wouldn't benefit from improved communication skills?)
How will you care for yourself and for one another as you move forward?

What kind of support and companionship do you want from your family and your community?

You've come a long way together. And now there are new vistas ahead. Stride into your future content that you've got the support you need from the partner you love to make this beloved relationship even more fabulous.