Writing wedding vows is a major
undertaking and one that has to be carefully approached with an
extraordinary amount of fore thought. In the final analysis,
the determining factor is probably truly based on your level of
courage and writing skill.
wisdom might dictate that you "stick to the script."
Everyone associated understands that it's your day to honor one
another. They will be happy for you, but do
they secretly want the bar to open and for food to appear on
The Ultimate Wedding Vow
they want something in return for the gift certificate to Home
Depot that lurks with a hundred other gift certificates on a
table in the reception area. You can blab all you want on the
altar, but if the food is cold you'll never hear the end of
All that I am
saying, is it is important to consider the needs and wants of
your audience as well as yourselves. Occasionally, a couple
might be tempted to get long winded, but even if you decide to
write your own vows - this is usually the exception.
there are often those who attend weddings that miss the
fundamental purpose underlying the whole event.
The purpose of
you wedding is two fold: affirm your love and commit yourself
wedding vows yourself can be a big step toward making this
expression a reality for your marriage.
In short, it
can be difficult dealing with hard nosed people. If you have a
family full of them, you can avoid embarrassment by stream
lining the ceremony. You may decide it is just easier to allow
the minister to conduct the ceremony. Then you don't really
have to think and just repeat what he tells you.
On the other
hand, writing wedding vows yourself can be a very meaningful
experience. The minister is there to help you and make sure
ever thing works out great.
monologues. The may be viewed as dreary "yada-yada" stuff. Your
guest might even feel like they're eavesdropping. You don't
want to impose on their patient, good nature by venting your
Keep in mind;
you already have the job. You should already have told you
partner everything before the wedding. If not you will have
ample opportunity after the wedding - during the years of
marriage to come. Simply, keep it brief and to the
wedding vows can be endearing and add immeasurably to your new
words wisely, though. Cut to the chase.
No one wants
to hear about rainbows, sunrises or flying doves unless you
want your guests to conclude that you were drunk when you were
straightforward and simple. Avoid the cliches. Avoid the
extremes of intimacy.
Use words that
stir the heart and batter the brain.
going to announce to the world why you want to spend your life
with this person, be practical. You don't have to say, "I'm
marrying you for your money." That's a bit tacky.
But you can
say, "I can't imagine going through life without you." That'll
keep them in their seats! If the food is cold, you might be
stated, writing wedding vows takes courage. If you have
writer's block, there's always Shakespeare or other poets.
Always look to your minister for suggestions and